Bazi Marriage Guide: looking at the fate of husband and wife and resolving conflicts from the fate
Preface
Marriage is a major event in life, which is related to the happiness of two people and the stability of the family. In traditional Chinese culture, the Bazi Marriage Compatibility is a method of predicting whether a marriage is suitable by analyzing the birth dates of both men and women. This article will introduce in detail the basic concepts, analysis methods, common problems and strategies for resolving conflicts of the Bazi Marriage Compatibility to help readers better understand and apply this traditional culture.
Chapter 1: Basic Concepts of Eight Characters Marriage Compatibility
1-1 What is Bazi marriage compatibility?
Eight-character marriage matching, also known as "matching eight characters", refers to a method of judging whether a marriage is suitable by analyzing the eight characters of the man and woman's birth dates. The eight characters are composed of four pillars (year pillar, month pillar, day pillar, hour pillar), each pillar is composed of a heavenly stem and an earthly branch, a total of eight characters, hence the name "eight characters".
1-2 The core elements of marriage compatibility
The core elements of marriage compatibility include:
Balance of the Five Elements: balance and mutual complementation of the five elements of gold, wood, water, fire and earth.
The relationship between the ten gods: the interaction of the ten gods: Friend, Robbery, Food, Injury, Regular Wealth, Partial Wealth, Regular Official, Seven Killings, Regular Seal and Partial Seal.
Fate conflict: the conflict relationship between the year pillar, month pillar, day pillar and hour pillar.
Annual fortune: the good or bad influence of the annual fortune of both parties.
1-3 Steps of Eight Characters Matching for Marriage
Convert birth date to stems and branches: Use a perpetual calendar or online horoscope system to convert both parties’ birth time into four-pillar stems and branches.
Analyze the balance of the five elements: calculate the five elements scores of both parties and analyze whether the five elements are balanced.
Analyze the relationship between the ten gods: Compare the ten gods of both sides and analyze the interactive relationship between the ten gods.
Analyze the conflict in fate: analyze the conflict relationship between the four pillars of both parties.
Analyze the fortune and luck of each party: Analyze the good and bad influence of the fortune and luck of both parties.
Chapter 2: Specific Analytical Methods for Bazi Marriage Compatibility
2-1 Five Elements Balance Analysis
The balance of the Five Elements (Wu Xing) is a crucial indicator in Bazi marriage compatibility. The Five Elements - Metal (金), Wood (木), Water (水), Fire (火), and Earth (土) - interact through cycles of generation and restriction.
Diagram of Five Elements Interactions
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Generating Cycle: Wood → Fire → Earth → Metal → Water → Wood
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Restricting Cycle: Wood → Earth → Water → Fire → Metal → Wood
Five Elements Balance Diagnosis
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Calculate Element Scores: Convert the Heavenly Stems and Earthly Branches in both individuals' Bazi charts into their corresponding Five Elements and tally their frequencies.
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Assess Balance: A near-equal distribution of elements is ideal. Significant imbalances (excess/deficiency of any element) require corrective measures.
2-2 Ten Gods Relationship Analysis
The Ten Gods (十神) represent different life roles and events in Bazi theory.
Definitions and Symbolism
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比肩 (Companion): Same element/gender → Independence, competitiveness.
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劫财 (Rob Wealth): Same element/opposite gender → Impulsiveness, loyalty.
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食神 (Eating God): Output, same gender → Gentleness, creativity.
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伤官 (Hurt Officer): Output, opposite gender → Rebelliousness, talent.
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正财 (Direct Wealth): Controlled by Day Master, same gender → Pragmatism, financial stability.
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偏财 (Side Wealth): Controlled by Day Master, opposite gender → Speculation, social networks.
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正官 (Direct Officer): Controls Day Master, same gender → Discipline, responsibility.
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七杀 (Seven Killings): Controls Day Master, opposite gender → Decisiveness, pressure.
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正印 (Direct Resource): Nourishes Day Master, same gender → Compassion, academic prowess.
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偏印 (Side Resource): Nourishes Day Master, opposite gender → Eccentricity, specialized skills.
Auspicious/Inauspicious Combinations
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食神制杀 (Eating God controls Seven Killings): Talent mitigates stress → Strong crisis management.
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伤官配印 (Hurt Officer with Resource): Rebelliousness guided by mentorship → Beware legal issues.
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财星破印 (Wealth breaks Resource): Material desires hinder learning → Strengthen Companion energy.
2-3 Clash and Conflict Analysis
Clashes (冲) and conflicts (克) between pillars reveal potential challenges.
Heavenly Stem Clashes
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甲庚 (Wood-Metal): Financial loss, legal disputes.
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乙辛 (Wood-Metal): Financial loss, legal disputes.
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丙壬 (Fire-Water): Financial loss, legal disputes.
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丁癸 (Fire-Water): Financial loss, legal disputes.
Earthly Branch Clashes
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子午 (Water-Fire)
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丑未 (Earth-Earth)
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寅申 (Wood-Metal)
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卯酉 (Wood-Metal)
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辰戌 (Earth-Earth)
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巳亥 (Fire-Water)
All signify financial or legal risks.
2-4 Luck Pillar (大运) and Annual (流年) Analysis
These temporal cycles influence marital harmony.
Interpretation Guidelines
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Luck Pillars (10-year cycles):
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Analyze elemental shifts, Ten Gods, and clashes.
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Annual Cycles (yearly):
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Identify critical years for marriage decisions.
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Example: A "红鸾" (Marriage Star) year boosts union prospects.
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Chapter 3: Common Compatibility Issues and Remedies
3-1 Common Bazi Incompatibility Problems
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Five Elements Imbalance
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Issue: Excessive or deficient presence of one element (e.g., too much Fire, too little Water).
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Impact: Creates energetic disharmony, leading to conflicts in values or health.
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Ten Gods Clashes
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Issue: Contradictory Ten Gods interactions (e.g., Hurt Officer vs. Direct Officer).
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Impact: Personality clashes (e.g., a rebellious partner vs. a disciplined one).
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Pillar Clashes
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Issue: Heavenly Stem/Earthly Branch conflicts (e.g., 子午冲 Water-Fire clash).
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Impact: Instability in marriage, financial disputes, or health risks.
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Inauspicious Luck Pillars/Annual Cycles
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Issue: Unfavorable 10-year Luck Pillars (大运) or yearly cycles (流年).
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Impact: Marriage stress during specific periods (e.g., "七杀" years bringing pressure).
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3-2 Remedies for Clashes and Conflicts
1. Five Elements Balancing
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Feng Shui: Use elemental decor (e.g., Water features for Fire excess).
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Accessories: Wear gemstones/crystals aligned with deficient elements (e.g., Jade for Wood).
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Color Therapy: Incorporate clothing/home colors of needed elements (e.g., green for Wood).
2. Ten Gods Harmonization
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Psychological Adjustment:
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Example: A Hurt Officer individual channeling creativity into art to reduce rebellion.
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Partner Selection: Seek complementary Ten Gods (e.g., Direct Resource balances Seven Killings).
3. Pillar Clash Neutralization
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Auspicious Wedding Timing:
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Choose dates with harmonious stems/branches (e.g., avoid 寅申冲 Wood-Metal clash days).
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Location Selection: Marry in a direction/venue that counters clashes (e.g., Earth-heavy place for Water-Fire clashes).
4. Luck Pillar/Annual Cycle Mitigation
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Strategic Timing:
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Postpone marriage during "冲太岁" (clash with Tai Sui) years.
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Advance plans in "红鸾" (Marriage Star) years.
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Rituals: Perform harmony rituals (e.g., Taoist blessings) in problematic cycles.
Chapter 4: Practical Case Analysis
4-1 Case 1: Resolving the imbalance of the five elements
Case Background
The five elements of a certain couple are unbalanced, the man has strong fire and the woman has weak water, which leads to incompatibility of personalities.
Mitigation strategies
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Men: Wear blue crystals, choose water-related colors and accessories to increase the water element.
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Female: Wear red crystal, choose colors and accessories with fire attributes to increase the fire element.
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Common: Choose a wedding date and location where water and fire complement each other to increase the balance of the five elements for both parties.
4-2 Case 2: Resolving the Conflicts among the Ten Gods
Case Background
The Ten Gods of a certain couple are in conflict. The man is strong in "比肩" (Comparison) while the woman is strong in "劫财" (Jiecai), which leads to incompatibility of their personalities.
Mitigation strategies
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Men: Increase regular income and side income, choose a stable way to manage finances, and improve your fortune.
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Female: Increase the number of Zhengguan and Qisha, choose a self-disciplined and responsible approach to increase career luck.
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Together: Choose a suitable wedding date and location to increase the balance of the Ten Gods for both parties.
4-3 Case 3: Resolving the conflict in fate
Case Background
The fates of a man and a woman are in conflict, with the man's year pillar and the woman's month pillar in conflict, leading to an unstable marriage.
Mitigation strategies
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Men: Choose a suitable date and place for marriage, and avoid a time and place that conflict with the woman's lunar column.
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Female: Choose a suitable date and place for the wedding, and avoid a time and place that conflict with the male's year pillar.
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Together: Choose a suitable wedding date and location to increase the balance of both parties' destinies.
4-4 Case 4: How to resolve the unfavorable luck in the year
Case Background
The fortunes of a certain couple are unfavorable this year. The man's fortune is unfavorable, and the woman's fortune is unfavorable this year, which leads to twists and turns in their marriage.
Mitigation strategies
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Male: Choose a suitable year and month for marriage, and avoid times when your fortune is unfavorable.
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Female: Choose a suitable year and month for marriage, and avoid unfavorable times.
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Common: Choose a suitable year and month for marriage to increase the balance of fortune for both parties.
Chapter 5: Practical Application of Eight Characters Marriage Compatibility
5-1 Five Elements Guide to Career Selection
Five Elements suitable industries and key factors for success:
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Wood: Education, publishing, environmental protection, continuing learning, and network expansion.
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Fire: entertainment, energy, technology, innovation and breakthroughs, and risk control.
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Earth: real estate, agriculture, finance, steady accumulation, support from nobles.
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Gold: Law, precision manufacturing, medical, professional certification, and detail control.
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Water: trade, logistics, tourism, flexibility and cross-sector integration.
5-2 Self-test table for annual fortune
2024 Jiachen Year Horoscope Quick Check:
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If the day master is wood: in the year of "Bijian", cooperation is beneficial but be careful of losing money.
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If the day master is fire, with the blessing of "Seal Star", academic examinations will be good.
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The main element of the day is earth: Under pressure from "officials", competition in the workplace intensifies.
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If the day master is metal: you will get wealth from the "God of Food" and opportunities for side business investment will increase.
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Day master is water: You will be tempted by the "wealth star" and be careful of emotional disputes.
5-3 Practical application of Eight Characters marriage compatibility
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Choose a suitable wedding date and place: Choose a suitable wedding date and place based on the horoscopes of both parties to avoid conflicts.
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Adjust the balance of the five elements: adjust the balance of the five elements through feng shui, wearing accessories, choosing the five elements colors, etc.
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Adjust the relationship between the ten gods: adjust the relationship between the ten gods through psychological adjustment, personality adjustment, and choosing a suitable partner.
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Choose a suitable industry and profession: According to the five elements of both parties, choose a suitable industry and profession to increase career luck.
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Ask a professional fortune teller to review your fortune regularly: To avoid blind spots in self-interpretation, ask a professional fortune teller to review your fortune regularly and adjust your strategy.
Conclusion
Eight-character marriage matching is not fatalism, but provides life optimization strategies through energy diagnosis. Suggestions for beginners:
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Record the monthly fortune fulfillment every month: establish a personal numerology database and record the monthly fortune changes.
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Combined with Feng Shui adjustments: such as the five elements color matching, office seat direction, adjust Feng Shui to increase luck.
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Ask a professional fortune teller to review your fortune regularly: To avoid blind spots in self-interpretation, ask a professional fortune teller to review your fortune regularly and adjust your strategy.